Happiness
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- Dr. David Lee PhD
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The Holiday Blues
It’s not uncommon. Many people feel “down” during the Christmas Holidays. So you are not alone.
It’s usually a feeling of loneliness, not having a close relationship. A feeling of being left out. Compounded by memories of a childhood when holidays were not exactly happy occasions. Like many of us, you may have been brought up in a distinctly dysfunctional family. Growing up was difficult. You may have experience cruelty, or neglect, or worse. Now you are grown up, and have left all that behind you. Except when the memories sneak up on you and there is no better time for that then the holidays.
So there you are, trying to be cheerful and happy just like everyone else around you. What you don’t know is how many of the people around you are experiencing much the same thing as you are. If you could only ask them how they are really feeling you would be surprised. You would find that you have a lot of company.
What can you do to feel better? Here are some suggestions:
Look into SAD, seasonal affective disorder. Some people get seasonal depression, usually related to there being less light in the winter. Exposure to brighter lighting can help clear this up.
Ask yourself if you have unreasonable expectations for the holidays. Too many parties and commitments? An obligation to buy gifts when you budget is already tight? Check out your stress level. Then sit down and logically decide what you can change to reduce your stress.
Most important… have more contact with friends. Especially a friend you can talk with openly and honestly about what you are feeling. Feelings of depression often accompany feelings of isolation. Maybe you have become somewhat reclusive. Or maybe you have a lot of people in your life but no one who is close, no one you can tell how you are really feeling. Promise yourself to get together with your closest friend, and tell them about your true feelings. You will be amazed at what happens.
Something else you can do is to download “The Happiness Handbook” from Kindle. This guide to happiness is chock full of useful information and includes 15 audio recordings you can download, all for free. I guarantee that this reading and listening experience will bring back your sense of security and power.
http://www.amazon.com/Happiness-Handbook-Art-Beneficial-Change-ebook/dp/B00YAYVDMG/ref=sr_1_15?s=fiona hardware&ie=UTF8&qid=1445052338&sr=8-15&keywords=the+happiness+handbook
Last resort… call or write me. david@truefortunes.com, 310-396-5459. I promise to respond to you. We can email or talk by phone. I would truly like to hear from you.
Faith
There are three aspects to faith that make it essential to your happiness; faith in a higher power, faith in other people, and faith in yourself.
Faith in a higher power is one key to happiness. You don’t have to be in a certain religion, and you don’t need a defined belief system. All you need is the awareness that there are forces and powers far beyond what we can understand, that we are limited and finite.
Faith in other people means that you trust others to behave in exactly the way that is appropriate for them. Most people don’t change very much, especially after they grow up. They develop specific and clearly identifiable patterns of behavior, and they stick to these patterns no matter what happens. So if someone is almost always kind to you, you can have faith in them to be nice to you in the future. If someone behaves dishonestly to people, then you can have faith in them to do the same to you. Makes life easy. I have just shared with you the secret to predicting what people are most likely to do. This knowledge alone can greatly increase your ability to deal with other people.
Faith in yourself is the most important of all. Your attitude about yourself was inborn; the mixed genes of your ancestors. Then your self-image was burnished and shaped by the way you were brought up. But that was a while back. You have been in charge for quite a while now, only you may not have realized it. That’s what these articles are all about. You learn how to take control of your thoughts and your life, how to achieve the prosperity and happiness that is your birthright.
INFJ Personality Type: A Deeper Look By Dr. A.J. Drenth
INFJs are “old souls.” Many grow up feeling wiser than would be predicted by their chronological age. Having discovered the value of their Introverted Intuition (Ni) quite early in life, INFJs grow to trust its judgments and insights. Even as children and adolescents, INFJs can be found advising and counseling their friends and siblings, and perhaps even adult family members. They tend to feel happiest and most fulfilled when helping and enlightening others through their insights.
10 Surprising Facts About Rejection
We know that rejection really hurts, but they can also inflict damage to our psychological well-being that goes well beyond mere emotional pain. Here are 10 lesser known facts that describe the various effects rejection has on our emotions, thinking, and behavior. Let’s begin by examining why rejection hurts as much as it does:
The Complete Happiness Handbook
If you are stressed out, unhappy, stuck, or hopeless, the information in this book can change your life! Full of concrete, well-researched information as well as a touch of humor, The Happiness Handbook will give you the tools and encouragement needed to improve your life, not just for today, but for the rest of your life! Get the complete 129 page book! Now on Kindle!
The Happiness Handbook
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The Art of Beneficial Change – Nine Steps to Happiness
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Ending Depression
Ending Depression 
The first thing you need to know about depression is the effect is has on you. Most people know when they are depressed, but sometimes it helps to know the specific symptoms. Read the full article and listen to the accompanying audio recording.
10 Ways To Avoid Holiday Depression
Holiday Depression 
We are headed into the holidays and it’s time for rejoicing. Except for those of us who dread the holidays. For many people Thanksgiving and Christmas and New Years are very difficult. A time when they are lonely and feel neglected, a time that reminds them of a difficult childhood, a time when everyone else seems happy but them. I am writing this for any of you who find the holidays difficult. Don’t worry. You are not alone.
If you don’t believe this then ask your shrink. Or someone else’s shrink if you don’t have one. They will tell you that the holidays are their busiest time of the year. Here are some helpful hints for handling the holiday blues.
First, try to avoid stress and depression especially if the holidays have taken an emotional toll on you in the past.
- Acknowledge your feelings. If you have had a recent loss or you can’t be with people you love, then it’s normal to feel sadness. Take time out to cry and express your feelings. Don’t try to force yourself to be happy. It won’t work.
- Find outside resources. Go to community, religious or other social events. You will find support and companionship. Volunteer your time to help others as this will give you pleasure and will help you develop new friendships.
- Accept change. Holidays change with time. Traditions and rituals evolve. If your adult children can’t come to your house then celebrate together in other ways, like sharing pictures, emails or videos.
- Accept family members and friends as they are. They will never live up to all of your expectations. Forget all the grievances for a while, maybe permanently. Be understanding when other people get upset when things go wrong. They may also have holiday stress and depression.
- Set a budget. Decide how much money you can afford to spend. Then stick to your budget. Don’t try to buy happiness with an avalanche of gifts.
- Set a schedule. Set aside specific days for shopping, baking, visiting friends and other activities. Write down your schedule and stick with it as best you can.
- Protect yourself. Don’t overcommit. Say no to requests when you are uncomfortable or unwilling.
- Stay with healthy habits. Don’t eat or drink too much or abandon your exercise. Overindulgence only makes you feel worse. Snack a little before holiday parties so that you overindulge on sweets, cheese or drinks. Get a lot of sleep. Get exercise each day.
- Take time out. Just 15 minutes alone, without distractions, could refresh you enough to handle everything. Clear your mind, slow your breathing and restore inner calm. You could take a walk at night, listen to soothing music. Get a massage or read a book.
- Get professional help if things get out of hand. If you feel persistently sad or anxious, have serious physical complaints, unable to sleep, feel irritable and hopeless, and find yourself unable to face routine chores for a period of time, talk to your doctor or a mental health professional.
Take control of the holidays
The holidays don’t have to be something you dread. You can take steps to prevent stress and depression that can come to you during the holidays. Recognize your holiday triggers, like financial pressures or relationship demands, so you can take care of them before a meltdown. Follow the suggestions you have just read and you will be able to find peace and joy during the holidays.
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